Human beings are unique creatures that have highly refined emotional reactions to everything.
Emotions can make us feel good or they can put us in a funk and make our lives miserable.
The good news is that we can learn to be the masters of our emotions and pick and choose our responses to everything that affects us. It gets better! We can also use emotions to influence how others react to us. But it is not quite so simple…
First, you have to understand the “WHY” and the “WHAT”. Why are you having certain feelings? What are they based on?
Every action, everyone we interact with, and every decision we make involves emotions. Once we take an action we cannot hit “reset”, erase what happened, and just do over what went wrong. There will be consequences and we will have to live with them.
Rock My Campus has devised a formula that will help anyone recognize and tame the emotions that can create confusion, paralyze us, or lead us down the wrong path. Conquering your emotions is most important in conflict resolution. Lack of understanding of where others are coming from and not having the tools to manage misunderstandings, misconceptions, and our own emotional responses create behavior issues and problems in the classroom and in life.
These problems lead to behavior issues, fights, and a negative and hostile learning environment. Our 4-Step “STOP” method was designed to lessen these occurrences.
THE 4-STEP “STOP” METHOD TO CONQUERING EMOTIONS
S=STOP
Pause and don’t react
Identify the facts
Observe your feelings
T=THINK
Name the exact feeling/s you are experiencing- mad, glad, happy, sad, etc.
Discover the story you are telling yourself about the situation
Decide what you need in this situation
O=OVERRIDE
Create a response that will de-escalate the emotions and situation
Ask yourself before responding- Is it necessary? Is it helpful? Is it kind?
Respond in a way that aligns with your desired outcome
P=PROGRAM
Review how the response you chose made a difference in the outcome
Remember your original reaction and imagine the outcome of the situation if you did not stop, think, and override it. In most cases, you will find that it would have done more harm than good.
File away the response that led to the desired outcome so you can remember to apply it in the same kind of situation by re-training/programming your mindset.